Divorce Recovery
Divorce can be difficult,
traumatic, and life changing
There are many ways to work through a divorce and heal from the wounds in divorce counseling.
Divorce counseling can help you navigate all of the feelings you are having.
Research shows that it takes 2 years to move beyond a divorce. However, if you are willing to look at the divorce issues in counseling, you can heal much more quickly. This enables you to:
Create a vision of your life after divorce
Parenting After Divorce: Be the best parent you can be for your kids and their changing situation
Move beyond the legal pieces of a divorce
Understand what happened so you don’t repeat unhealthy relationship patterns
Read more about how to help kids during a divorce
With over 20 years of experience, Dr. Steven Lazarus is an expert at helping adults and children heal from a divorce.
Contact Dr. Steven Lazarus to start the next chapter in your life
How should you approach Parenting After Divorce?
You may feel like your world is turning upside down.
Your feelings are going from extreme anger to sadness.
Worried about your children and how can you help them.
You may feel guilty or rejected.
Divorce statistics are staggering. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. The statistics for second marriages failing are even higher.
Factors that help and hurt kids during a divorce
Like health issues, there are a variety of risk and protective factors that can help or hurt your child’s ability to deal with a divorce.
Risk Factors
- Custodial parent exhibiting less effective parenting
- Diminished involvement from the noncustodial parent
- Continued parental hostility with each other after the divorce
- The diminishment of economic resources
- Low maternal warmth
- Mothers with a high level of depressive symptoms
- Continued and repeated life changes including changes in residence and schools
- Subsequent parental relationships, marriages, and divorces
- A divorce process that is acrimonious
Protective Factors
- Competent and involved custodial parents
- Cooperative co-parenting
- Individual child characteristics such as intelligence, ability to self-regulate, independence, high self-esteem
- Strong internal resources in parents
- Positive achievements in academics, sports, and positive peer relations
- A close sustained relationship with a competent adult such as a teacher, other family member, therapist, friend’s parent, etc.
- Having an easy temperament
- Positive sibling support
- The active and continued involvement of both parents
Economic stability - Positive parent-child relationships
- Interventions that enabled parents to settle disputes: divorce education programs and mediation
- A positive father-child relationship
- Mothers having a high degree of warmth toward their children
- One parent having a positive relationship with their child
- Low level of parental hostility
